“In order to learn Tango you have to do it wrong before you can do it right, which means allowing your energy to move no matter what.”
Fear Of Rejection
The most common thoughts are:
1) I’m not good enough
2) If they knew the real me, they wouldn’t like me
3) I don’t have what it takes
4) I/my situation will never change/improve
F.E.A.R. has two meanings:
Forget Everything and Run
Face Everything and Rise
The Choice is YOURS!
Fear Of Disappointment:
Your inner critic will try to convince you to give up before you even begin. It will try to “protect” you from not only realizing your false fears, but it will also prevent you from realizing your true nature and discovering who you really are.
F.E.A.R. means False Evidence Appearing Real
Fear Of Failure:
A failure to one person might simply be a great learning experience for someone else. Many of us are afraid of failing, at least some of the time. But fear of failure is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals.
Fear Of Success:
People who have experienced trauma may associate the excitement of success with the same physiological reactions as trauma. They avoid subjecting themselves to excitement-inducing circumstances, which causes them to be almost phobic about success.
Fear Of Wasting Time:
There’s simply no shortcut to “figuring things out”—for anyone. Instead of being hard on yourself for not having clarity, be proud of yourself for moving forward on a foggy road when you could easily find a cloudless, well-beaten path to follow…to certain dissatisfaction.
There’s no set timeframe for doing anything.
You truly can do things in your own time without having to worry about being “behind”. Sometimes it’s the things we do that feel like “stalling” or “getting off track” that end up being the most helpful for our growth.
And besides, what story will be more interesting to flash before your eyes in the end: one that unfolded in ways you never expected, with unique twists and turns; or, one that followed a specific, predetermined timeline with predictable steps from milestone to milestone?
Fear Of Being A Fool:
Take risks. Push your own boundaries, and live beyond your comfort zone. Put yourself out there as much as you can. Say something, wear something, do something that you previously may have avoided because of the fear of looking foolish. Do it in baby steps, if necessary.
Embrace the failures as well as the successes. If we really put ourselves out there and permit ourselves to move freely through the world, unfettered by public opinion, there will inevitably be times when we fall. However, the more we integrate the energy of The Fool, the easier it becomes to take his lessons on board and continue to move forward, impervious to the judgment of others.
The Courage To Be Imperfect:
The fact is, every single one of us is a work-in-progress. No less so than in Tango.
We may be at different stages in life. We may have different strengths and weaknesses, but there isn’t a single person on the planet who hasn’t felt vulnerable or made mistakes. Nor is there a single person who couldn’t be better at something in some area of their life.
While hiding your flaws or pretending to be something or someone you’re not can fool many people- and many try to live their lives this way- true power comes from being your authentic self- flaws and all- and not being ashamed or afraid of being imperfect.
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